Bow and Arrow Questions Concerning Relationships: QUESTION 2



Posted: Thursday, February 11, 2010

by Robin Brown

QUESTION: This past weekend, I met a really nice guy at a nightclub and we exchanged cell phone numbers. I waited for him to call the next day and no call. I waited the second day and no call. My question is, why did he ask for my phone number if he wasn’t going to call me? I have his number, should I just call him and ask how he is doing just to touch base with him? I think he is a really nice guy but I’m kind of confused with him not calling. What should I do?

ANSWER: I’ll cut to the chase. Do not call him! With today’s technology, him giving you his phone number means nothing! Single men who are in today’s dating game will not answer a phone number that they do not remember or recognize period! Before phone recognition came out, the game was different. Today’s technology has changed the playing field and the advantage has gone over to the male’s side. Text messaging has moved the game even further on the male’s end of the field. Text messaging has made it even easier for males to string females along because they do not have to speak with them one on one or face to face until they are ready to do so. Women have been loosing ground in the dating game since the phone was invented. The phone allowed men to speak with women without seeing them in person until they were prepared to do so.

   Single males are the preditors and they will keep as many women available to them as possible. Men have used phones and then cell phones and then text messaging to their advantage. Women are very intuitive and in touch with reading visual behavior better than men  so, when a man uses a phone, he doesn’t have to face a woman until HE is ready. If he acts too early then he might give himself away behaviorally. The preditor will search and work his prey until he is ready and feels secure and confident enough to go for what he wants. Text messaging allows the male to reflect upon his thoughts before sending them. This is a hugh advantage for males. You should place about as much value to text messages as you would when speaking to a stranger sitting next to you on an airplane! Samething! Remember that MEN are the preditors and they love the hunt so, let them hunt! If you make it too easy, they will loose interest about as fast as a three year-old eating spinach! If they are interested, give them the opportunity to believe that they are being successful in their hunt. It is a human behavioral condition that no amount of care or phone calls on a female's part will shift. Let MEN be the hunter and the woman, the prey and begin to allow that particular advantge in their court. This knowledge alone will even the playing field before another phone call is placed. Sit back and smile and if the man ever ask why you don’t use text messaging just answer, “I don’t like it". Ouch! He won’t be able to say anything to that except, “I like it!" and that is when you can reply, “DUHHH!" It’s time for the female to level the playground here. Allow the hunter to hunt for they know not what you know now. Set, match, game... female.

Robin J. Brown has been published in the book anthology titled, ‘‘The Real Meaning of Life’’ and in the book anthology, "Names in a Jar" A Collection of Poetry by 100 Contemporary American Poets. His musical association,
“Secrets of the Mind" is a collection of his Internal Rhyming poetry put to music at www.umarain.com under Robin's New Music. Please provide 15 to 30 seconds for each piece on UMA RAIN to be downloaded after selection. Using earphones will help you appreciate the timing of the lyrics and rhythms of the music as one. Enjoy!

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» left by brad from Colorado Springs 2 years 71 days ago.
Wow maybe he is just a little busy it has only been two days. Call him in five days maybe he lost your number or broke his phone. As far as for the author most men aren't playing games but you seem to expect that because we are using technology to communicate with people we just met, maybe we are busy and the text message is a great way of talking while accomplishing other task. What is the difference between text messages and a letter yet when you recieve a letter you chalk it up as romantic and a text as some sort of strategic move or form of denial. Ladies you need to calm down and remember that you gave this person your number because he interested you in one way or another over a casual meeting, If he is interested he will call you, if he was just being polite get back up dust yourself off and give the number to someone else maybe it will be the last.
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